Childhood – behaviour and tantrums
As parents we sometimes forget how difficult it is for our children to control their emotions. Children need to learn how to develop the skills to keep strong emotions in check and as a result of this, frequent outbursts of temper are common and can start at a very young age. Usually children begin to experience these temper tantrums as toddlers and how you react has a real effect on how your child learns to cope with these emotions.
When your children suddenly feel a need for something and are denied, they can have a strong reaction and because they are so young they have not mastered the control needed to calm themselves, this is where you, as the parent need to teach them this skill, if you react badly they will learn that a violent outburst (from them) results in a similarly strong reaction from you, which they then learn to associate with the particular emotion they are feeling. In other words you unintentionally teach your child that it is correct to match these emotions to one another. If on the other hand you react calmly your child will realize that, that behaviour is not only not suitable, but also, not a common form of communication between people.
For more information read toddler tantrums